Pregnant During a Pandemic - How To Navigate The Added Stress
There might be a light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to the COVID-19 pandemic. But we’re still not out of the woods yet. In fact, some states are seeing cases rise again.
While the pandemic has been difficult for everyone, it can be especially challenging to deal with the ins and outs of being pregnant when there is so much uncertainty and stress.
Added to this, partners are being limited in the support they can provide during doctor visits, particularly if there are older siblings at home and your partner needs to stay with them.
Whether you just found out you are pregnant or you’ve been pregnant for months already, it’s important to know how to keep yourself and your unborn child safe during the pandemic. Hopefully, some sense of normalcy will return soon. Until then, navigating the waters of the pandemic as a pregnant woman might not be easy.
Thankfully, you can use a few tips and ideas to get through this time and stay safe.
Have A Continuous Discussion With Your Medical Provider
You likely have so many questions for your medical provider regarding COVID and how it may or may not impact your pregnancy. Should I get vaccinated? Could the vaccine cause something to happen to my pregnancy? Are there benefits to getting vaccinated while I am pregnant? What are the potential risks? I've have a previous pregnancy loss and am so scared of getting COVID and losing this baby, yet I am also afraid of getting the vaccine and having a reaction that also impacts my pregnancy. The anxiety abounds!
The good news is that information is being released sometimes daily and almost always on a weekly basis that is positive. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) and The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) are all watching these developments very closely and are issuing updates on their websites often and regularly. Your providers are likely keeping up with these developments or even receiving daily email updates with the latest and greatest information.
So how can you best tap into this source of information? Make a list of questions and bring them into each prenatal check up visit. Keep notes in an app on your phone and reference it when you see your provider. And if you forget to ask during a visit or a new question comes up between visits, call your provider's office and ask to speak with a nurse or your provider. Or perhaps they have a secure portal for communicating questions such as these directly with your provider. Now, more than even, be empowered to have these difficult and crucial questions answered for yourself so you can be informed. Research and education is a powerful tool for managing anxiety - especially during this pandemic.
Keeping Yourself Safe
People might be easing up a bit when it comes to their response to the pandemic. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you should. It is still very possible to contract COVID, even while pregnant. In fact, research has suggested that pregnant women may be at a greater risk of contracting it and could be at risk for preterm labor.
Thankfully, studies have also shown that COVID cannot be passed to your baby in utero. If you’re diagnosed with COVID, taking care of yourself and focusing on getting well will keep your developing baby healthy and strong.
One of the best things you can do is be as diligent as possible with your safety. Keep wearing a mask when you’re in public, social distance as much as possible, and try to avoid large gatherings. Wash your hands frequently, and make sure you’re taking care of yourself with plenty of rest.
If certain activities, such as grocery shopping, are causing you marked distress and anxiety, consider utilizing other options such as grocery delivery or curbside pick up. I know, coming from a therapist, this may sound quite odd. But your concern and anxiety is not unfounded. And keeping your anxiety levels lower during pregnancy is very important. We have to remember that COVID is real and remains a risk if you are unvaccinated. Once your baby is here, then you can begin to work on reintegrating slowly back to life circa 2019.
Having a Plan in Place
One of the best ways to cope and manage anxiety is to have a plan in place. In fact, so often anxiety is peaked when planning and preparation efforts are not possible. Or when "best laid plans go awry."
When communicating with your medical provider, find out what rules/restrictions your hospital has in place currently. At the height of COVID in the summer of 2020, many hospitals weren’t allowing a support person/spouse/partner in the delivery room during the birth process. Things have changed, and most medical facilities recognize the importance of having someone there for emotional support during birth.
It’s normal to be a little “worried” about the ins and outs of your pregnancy and what to expect. Those worries may be even greater in light of the pandemic. But, it’s not an impossible situation to navigate if you’re willing to make a few adjustments and plan ahead as much as possible.
In "normal" times, anxiety can peak during pregnancy. And we remain in unprecedented times as we navigate this pandemic. I’m here to help you find some calm and joy in your pregnancy while finding ways to quiet the anxiety. I offer a complimentary phone consultation to all potential clients. To schedule yours in a matter of seconds, please check here.
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Jennifer Perera is a mom of two boys, a spouse and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She has a private practice in Cranford, New Jersey and also sees clients throughout New Jersey via telehealth. Her passion is helping new moms and dads find their joy again in parenthood through individual and couples counseling. She also runs workshops for new parents, teaching them techniques and strategies to help them have a stronger relationship - built to thrive during the parenthood years. Jennifer specializes in working with parents during the prenatal and postpartum periods and those coping with grief or loss issues surrounding pregnancy.