COUNSELING FOR COLLEGE STUDENTS
FEELING WEIGHED DOWN BY THE STRESS OF COLLEGE?
Struggling to find your sense of self and identity?
Finding the pressure to make decisions difficult?
Can’t seem to find the motivation to make it to class or turn in assignments on time?
Wondering if you are on the right track for your life and career?
Having trouble sleeping at night?
Or finding you lack the energy to make it out of your dorm room and to class?
Feel anxious, on edge or irritable more than you usually do?
Having trouble in your personal and romantic relationships?
Have you noticed a significant change in your appetite?
MANY COLLEGE STUDENTS FEEL THIS WAY.
COLLEGE IS A TIME OF INTENSE AND RAPID TRANSITION.
For many college students, freshman year is a time when symptoms of depression or anxiety are likely to emerge, or past symptoms of depression may exacerbate. College is this interesting time of transition where one is given an opportunity to explore independence away from their parents, hometown, and all that feels comfortable. But for many, this independence and freedom can be a lonely, confusing and downright uncomfortable. Many feel like they are not cut out to succeed in such a high pressure environment.
Decisions can seem overwhelming. Am I in the right major? What internship should I choose? Should I study abroad? Do I need to take a semester off? How do I manage my money?
The pressure to perform academically can be intense and feel overwhelming. Picking a major, choosing classes, second guessing your decisions, and simply managing time and assignments can feel insurmountable. If you previously struggled with time management or organization in high school, you may find your safety net is now far away and now your grades are suffering.
COUNSELING CAN HELP YOU BOTH ACADEMICALLY AND SOCIALLY.
Competitiveness and perfectionism stare you in the face everywhere you turn, and you feel like you are just not good enough. You feel lost, like you have chosen the wrong major and its too late to change directions.
College is also an opportunity to make new friends and expand your social skills. But many college students struggle with social anxiety and find fitting in is harder in college than it was in high school. Finding your circle of friends can be difficult and dating/romantic relationships even harder to navigate.
Counseling can help you cope with depression and anxiety and find your inner strengths so that you can excel, both socially and academically. If you are finding yourself struggling with academics or social relationships, it could be that you are depressed or suffering with anxiety that feels paralyzing.
Academically, if you are struggling with depression, you probably find you don’t want to attend lectures or are behind on your assignments. Procrastination is your go-to coping skill because after all, if you wait until the last minute, it only takes a minute. Depression will cloud your thinking and make graduation day feel like a mirage.
The first step is to identify that something is not quite right and to seek help. And you have already done this since you are reading this site. Setting up an initial appointment is easy. During this session, we will focus on identifying your goals so we can get right to work developing a plan for you. We will work together to set realistic and attainable goals. You will gain tools to help you cope with upsetting emotions and help seeing situations from a different perspective. You will learn to feel more in control of your emotions, rather than feeling like your emotions are controlling you.
Perfectionism is a common trait that causes distress. We will look at ways to work through your feelings of insecurity to help you gain more self-confidence. And we will identify models of self-care that embody self-compassion. Most importantly, you will find a safe and confidential space to speak your truth and be heard and validated.
I’M STILL NOT SURE IF THERAPY WILL HELP ME.
You will find that I bring my real self and experiences into therapy. I try to keep it light by using humor as appropriate. I understand what it is to go through this time in your life. If you are feeling overwhelmed and lost, I am here to help. You will find the support and validation you have not found from your usual support system. Counseling can help you survive this time in your life and embrace your future with open arms.
I FEEL A BIT BETTER TODAY THEN I DID YESTERDAY. MAYBE I CAN DO THIS ON MY OWN.
I completely get that starting therapy is a difficult decision and that talking with someone you do not know can feel very vulnerable. But what we know about clinical depression and anxiety is that it generally does not just go away on its own. You may feel better one day, then terrible the next. Depression is also episodic. So if you made it out of one episode, you may still have another. Therapy can help you reframe certain thought patterns that contribute to depression so that future episodes are less likely to occur or less severe.
I AM ON A TIGHT STUDENT BUDGET.
Your student health plan allows you to see therapists outside of Princeton's Counseling and Psychological Services (CPS) who are a part of the Exclusive Provider Network (EPN). I am a participating provider with EPN so your cost for sessions are very low – you just pay your copay.
MY TIME IS SPARSE.
Time is indeed precious, and we all need more hours in the day. But chances are that your depression is making certain parts of your life very difficult. I keep sessions focused on solutions and coping strategies so that you can leave feeling like you have accomplished something from our time together. I also offer flexible scheduling throughout the day and varied lengths of appointments. And my office is conveniently located within walking distance of campus at 20 Nassau Street.
I HAVE BEEN TO THERAPY BEFORE AND IT WAS NOT REALLY HELPFUL.
Many of my clients find me after having seen another therapist before. Therapists all have their own approach to therapy so you may find that you are more comfortable with me than you were with your previous therapist. I encourage all my clients to evaluate and re-evaluate throughout our work together if they feel like they are getting the help they need. If you ever feel like you are not getting the help you seek, I will help you find someone else who may be able to help you better.
I AM A VERY PRIVATE PERSON AND FIND IT HARD TO OPEN UP
So am I. I get that I can be incredibly difficult to talk to a stranger about things you find hard to tell even your closest friend or partner. We will go at your pace and only talk about what is top of mind for you. This is your counseling after all and it will focus on helping you achieve your goals. You may even find that it is easier to open up once we have met in person. Many people tell me that I am fairly easy to talk to.